HOW TO HANDLE A BREAK UP - MY 4 BEST TIPS

UGGGGGGGHHHH. 

It's been a while since I've personally been through a break up but I DEFINITELY know how it feels and that it completely blows. 

I've had a few people hit me up recently telling me that they're going through a break up and wanted some advice. 

I think I've seen enough happen and I've seen where people mess up too often after a break up that I kind of just want to talk about it.

First of all, I've never been that girl that's an "on and off" person in a relationship. We're either dating or we're not. I don't see the point in leaving that grey, in between area open to kind of just do whatever you want. 

It kind of just seems like an opportunity to do something wrong and not get in trouble for it.

SO, when I break up with someone, it's DONE. 

PS: I'd love to hear any of your tips or stories so comment below if you have any!

So if you're in a situation where it's DONE, especially if you're the one that got broken up with, then consider some of these "tips?" I guess I would call them... Because none of your friends want to hear you talk about your on and off relationship for 10 years. THEY'RE OVER IT, you need to be over it too. 

1.

DON'T STALK THEM ON SOCIAL MEDIA. 

Always and forever, this will be number one. You are COMPLETELY 100% torturing yourself when you go see what the last thing was that they posted, who they're following since the break up, what their captions say, where their geo-tags are....BLAH, STOP. 

It's also silly to me because it's so easy to block someone but it seems like a lot of people after a break up make a huge effort to stalk their ex on social media ALL DAMN DAY. 

You are not going to get over someone if you are obsessing over their every move and breath. You stay extremely attached to that person and it's just un healthy. I mean, especially if they broke up with you then I think you need to realize that you need to move on. 

Don't torture yourself. 

2.

DO YOU.

OMG. Maybe this should be number 1? It's a close call. If someone breaks up with you, DO NOT SPEND YOUR TIME TRYING TO GET THEIR ATTENTION. This is such a bad move. I feel like I can even see right through posts where people are trying to get back at their ex. 

Don't post a picture of yourself in Europe and talk about how your so happy to be there only because you know your ex REALLLLY wanted to go to Europe. 

Don't even post a picture of you drinking a Caramel late when you hate Starbucks but you know that was your ex's favorite drink. 

Get what I'm saying? Because at the end of the day, THE ONLY REASON you are posting that picture is because you are waiting to see if he or she is going to react to it. So you're still technically using SO much energy throughout your day just to get that persons attention. 

And the worst part? They know what you're doing. I mean they dated you right? They know you. They're going to know if you're being genuine or fake so don't let them have that satisfaction that you're still worried about what they think. 

DO YOU. 

3.

DON'T POST YOURSELF PARTYING 

Okay - for some this might seem totally appropriate which yeah go have some cocktails with your girls and if you want to post a picture of that I think thats okay BUT don't make the caption ANYTHING about him, or her. 

But if you never party, don't purposely go out and get hammered and post pictured of yourself with people you don't know JUST to "get back" at your ex. 

If I saw my ex do that I would laugh. especially if they never liked clubs you know? It would be so obvious that they were still wasting energy just trying to get back at me, which is kind of pathetic. 

If someone breaks up with me, I go off the radar. You won't know where I'm at, what I'm doing, how I'm doing...and at the end of the day, that's going to drive your ex more insane that him being able to see your every move and see that you're still clearly obsessed with them. 

4.

GET BUSY. 

Post break up for me is like crack. I feel like it's the best time to do all the shit you forgot that you wanted to do while you were in a relationship. This is also why you never want to get to this point in a relationship. 

You should be able to be you + MORE in a relationship...not 1/2 of who you are because you were too busy giving yourself to someone else. 

If you're going through a break up then you need to make sure you're busy all day doing things for yourself. This helps keep your mind off of your break up and it helps push your forward. 

Start going to the gym again and get your diet on point. Start hanging out with friends that you haven't made time for in a while. Go work on what YOU want to do. 

People that go through break ups and spend all day doing nothing other than trying to get the attention of their ex end up digging themselves deeper into a hole of depression, and girllllll you don't have time for that. 

I feel like whether you're going through a break up or if you've been single for a while and you feel like you want to start dating, the absolute best thing you can possible do is DO YOU. 

Be yourself, don't play games, and focus on your goals.

Doing you will always be the most attractive thing you can do.

Comment your tips, tricks, and stories below!

Love you guys

xx

PROUDLY CAPPING OFF 2016, AND SETTING GOALS FOR NEXT YEAR

December really seems like it can be a hit or miss right? I think that we all get caught up in the fact that a whole year has gone by (again) and we wonder if we could have gotten more done. 

We're really just moving on from the month of December to the month of January but we don't really look at it like that. I know for me at least, I spend time in December writing down all the things I want to accomplish for the following year. 

When I look back on it I can easily see all the things that I was able to check off vs. all the things I didn't even come close to finishing - which can be kinda depressing right? Do any of you do that?

Being bummed out is pretty much one of my least favorite things. I hate being in a bad mood or upset but sometimes it's hard to avoid, especially when it comes to the progress of myself.

SO! I always try to turn things around by finding the positive which is why this year I decided to take a look back on 2016 and write down everything that I was proud of and what I had accomplished. 

I highly recommend trying this! 

It really showed me where my focus was this year, which helps me figure out what I neglected and allows me to make more of an effort in those areas for the following year.

Some things I'm grateful for in 2016:

• branching off into chelsey rose health
• launching my first physical product
• getting better at my photography
• being more consistent with my blogging
• doing my biggest collaboration so far 
• getting paid for my first fitness video shoot 
• traveling to NY for my first time
• living with esteban
• Working with someone who i've wanted to work with since i moved to LA
• Staying Healthy
• Understanding my direction and getting a better grasp on who I am and how I work
• Doing collaborations with Breville, Perfect Bar, FItMoo, BeFit, Persu, FabFitFun, and more

 I definitely noticed that my focus this year was all about work and growing my brand which I'm very excited about. I knew that that was what I wanted to focus on this year and I'm happy with the progress that I made. I'm so grateful for new people that I've gotten close to and how I've managed to be more consistent.

I'm HUGE on writing down goals and keeping them somewhere where you can see them at all times. People sometimes ask me if I have a journal, or a notebook, or a planner to organize...I literally have all 3 plus two white boards, and keep reminders and notes in my phone.

It is so important to figure out what you want in the long run and then working backwards to figure out what you need to do DAY TO DAY to get to that end goal. If you don't write these things down then you can't be aware of the progress you've made and you might lose direction and motivation. 

I just wrote down my goals for 2017 in the notes on my computer but I plan on transferring them to my white boards at home and I plan on talking to a few people about them. 

Talking to people that support you about what your goals are and what you want to accomplish is SO IMPORTANT. 

When I tell people that I want to do something, they tend to check in on me about them and the progress I've made. They also can be a helping hand because they know what I'm wanting to do so they might meet people that could help me accomplish my goals.

So, to take a step in holding myself accountable, I want to share with you guys some of the things that i want to accomplish/ some things that I'm excited about for the upcoming year!

• Spend more quality time with my family
• Start a podcast
• Create a membership for my readers with exclusive content
• Offer my health guide and fitness guide
• Spend less time at my 9-5 and more time at home doing what I love
• Move in to a place with my boyfriend!
• Take my sisters on a trip
• Start a new hobby
• Meet new fitness goals
• Fix my back
• Start meditating
• Start a serious savings account to buy a house
• Pay of my credit cards
• Take random trips throughout the United States

That's just some of the things that I want to focus on this year but I'm realizing that I want to try to spend more time exploring and spending time with my family this year. 

I also hope to make new leaps in my career and try to back away from being at my normal job as much. 

Now i'll take this list and try to start planning it out. I'll try to plan trips, I'll start seeing what I need to do to start a podcast, how long it takes and what I need to do weekly to make sure that everything runs smoothly. 

I'll write down fitness goals (maybe one for each month?) and I'll start making appointments for physical therapy to get my back straightened out. 

See how this all helps me work towards my goals? Without this list, I would just enter the new year with a few ideas that I would probably only work on casually when I decided to think about it. 

Now I know what I want, and I can have a game plan. This is so important in reaching your goals so I highly recommend that you try it and also try writing down everything your proud of from 2016 rather than being bummed out about what you didn't finish. 

Let me know what some of your goals are below so I can help hold you accountable!

xoxo

Chelsey