CUT THE BULL SH*T

Aggressive?

Don't worry, I don't mean it in a mean way. In fact, I'm kind of writing this as a reminder for myself!

Soooooooo

You know how life is solid, everything's pretty good, you can't complain and then BOOM, fucking out of nowhere you are drowning in life, don't know why you're even on this planet, NO clue WTF you're doing or why you're doing it. 

You see everything as pointless, you're a failure, you should be further along in your career and in your relationship.

You SUCK, right?

Literally it's like one day you say, OH! I'm so happpyyyyy! I'm living with my friends, I'm making as much money as a server as I would If I had a "real" job, I'm single AF and loving iiiiitttt HAAAAY.

Next day:

WHY THE HELL don't I have my own place yet, I HATE living with people, I still work in a restaurant, I'm just gunna serve people for the rest of my life, I never fulfilled what I ACTUALLY wanted to do, I should be at least dating someone at this point.........

Yeah - we've all been there.

Including me, for sure.

All I'm going to say right now is, 

RELAX. RELAX. RELAX. 

Deep breath in...annnnd out. One more timmmme....cool. Now let's talk.

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1. THE LAW OF ATTRACTION

So maybe you are this person or you've heard this before but ...The person that when something bad happens says, "I KNEW THAT WAS GOING TO HAPPEN!"

Um, what?

Why would you pre meditate something bad happening?? That's just a weird thing to do. 

Well you say because, bad things always happen to you and you just KNEW that something was going to happen.

Again, weird. 

I'm the kind of person where if things don't go well I think, well...NEXT STEP. I don't dwell on it and I sure as hell don't tell everyone that that was what I was EXPECTING.

I'm ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS expecting THE BEST.

The best opportunity, the best parking spot, the best trip, the best tip, whatever.

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People that are constantly expecting the worst are SERIOUSLY damaging their motivational drive, their perspective, their opportunities and their risk to take chances because no matter what they will ALWAYS seem to have a reason or an excuse as to why it won't work or go well.

I'm currently reading a book right now called, The Secret. I'm curious as to who has heard of it and who hasn't but basically...

SPOILER ALERT

It's about the one, the only, the LAW OF ATTRACTION.

Have you guys heard of this before?

This is how Google defines it:

The LAW OF ATTRACTION is the name given to the maxim "like attracts like" which in New Thought philosophy is used to sum up the idea that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts a person brings positive or negative experiences into their life.

Pretty basic right?

It's basically saying that whatever you expect, you will get...whether you're expecting good things or bad things.

So if you're expecting bad health or expecting your boyfriend or girlfriend to cheat on you or you're expecting your car to break down, or whatever, then it's MORE LIKLEY to happen.

You're brain doesn't necessarily register that that is a bad thing. It just knows that you're thinking of this particular thing happening, so it starts to subconsciously help you achieve that.

Scary right?

Even if you don't know how the hell it could even be possible that something could work, if it is what you want, then YOU NEED to think and believe that it will work.

You will have good health, you will be in a long lasting & loving relationship, you will be a millionaire, you will move to Costa Rica ... Get what I'm saying?

I remember when I first moved to LA my dad asked me to write out my budget.

I lied my freaking face off on that budget and I was scared. I didn't know how the hell or where the fuck I was going to come up with money for rent, food, insurance, my car payment, gas and whatever else but I just KNEW I would make it work. 

It doesn't mean that it was easy and it doesn't mean that there weren't times where I was saying "God, I don't know how this is going to work but, I trust ya!" but it all worked out. And hey, I've never asked my parents for money so HOLLA.

2. WHAT YOU THINK, YOU SEE

An easier example might be this:

You know how when you start dating someone and out of no where you start seeing their car ALL AROUND THE EFFING GLOBE??

It's obviously not your boyfriend or girlfriend that you're seeing driving down the street 9 million times but it's the same make and model of the car they have.

That's because this person is constantly on your mind and now you are more drawn to things that you never would have noticed before.

The same thing happens when we start to visualize ourselves a certain way.

Pretty cool right?

This is why in any success book I've ever read they all say to write down where you see yourself in X amount of years. What are you wearing? What is your morning schedule? What does your house look like? BE SPECIFIC.

When you start to really see yourself somewhere you make it more tangible, Then your brain starts to work on again, subconsciously, figuring out how to obtain those things.

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So if you feel like things aren't going your way just chill out, stay positive and tell yourself that everything is going to work out. My immediate advice would be to go get this book called THE SECRET by Rhonda Byrne as well as AWAKEN THE GIANT WITHIN by Anthony Robbins.

These books will help you stay positive and help you think about what you really want and help you plan on how to get there.

Keep your head up!

xoxo Chelsey 

DON'T POINT OUT YOUR OWN "FLAWS"

Okay, Imagine that you just started dating a guy and you are just head over heels for him. You don't see anything wrong with him, you think he's gorg from hair to toe, he doesn't annoy you and you just love being around him..

k?

Now imagine that every time you hang out with this guy you notice that he talks about or mentions or complains about his teeth.

Maybe they're not the straightest but you never noticed. If anything I'm sure you thought it was cute and different that they weren't perfectly straight. You didn't really give a shit.

But he keeps on talking about it and talking about it and examining them and gets self cautious about them.

What do you start to notice?

His teeth.

Maybe, you start to think to yourself...oh yeah...I guess his teeth are kind of bad.

or, I think I actually prefer to have someone with straight teeth.

Whatever. You get the idea.

Something that you never even noticed before or maybe even liked, now has become something that you notice.

You look to see if they've tried to do something different, you notice now if they're whiter, or straighter. Shit you might even be counting them by now.

GIRLS. GIRLLLLLLLS DO THIS CRAP ALLLLL THE TIMMMMMEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.

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- I have an ugly stomach

- I hate this scar right here

- My ears are SO big

- My second toe is bigger than my big toe

- My face is fat

- My arms are so chubby

- I'm a bitch

- I'm spoiled

- I'm ugly

- My legs are seriously DISGUSTING.

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HOLY SHIT RIGHT?

These are all things i've heard girls say about themselves. IT'S HORRIBLE.

They pick at themselves over and over and over again and declare statements about themselves that aren't true.

They say it so much that people around them start to see those things and take notice of them.

Here's another example.

Picture a girl at a pool party that is very overweight, but she's happy. She's a GOOD TIME, she's nice, she's laughing, she compliments others, she isn't afraid to eat by the damn pool or get her hair wet.

COMPARED TO

A girl who is very overweight at a pool party who is covering up her stomach, complaining about the way she looks, refusing to eat, talking down on other girls because they are thinner than her.

Even though something may even be obvious, the less you point it out, the less people care!

And I don't mean, pointing out the obvious...

Like telling everyone a million times that you don't care about your weight or your look or your attitude or whatever. 

I mean, just not even bringing it up.

If you don't care, then don't talk about it.

Easy right?

Even if you DO CARE. Try just not complaining about it or pointing it out to people and see how you feel.

Not to necessarily hide your feelings but to build up confidence within yourself.

I've noticed this so much since I've moved to LA and it is seriously DRAINING.

Everyone has a complaint, no one is satisfied, girls are LITERALLY staring at themselves for SOOO long pointing out each and every thing.

It's unattractive you know?

At least if you don't like something then shut up about it, fix it, or get over it and move on.

I'm sorry if that's harsh but seriousllllly, no one cares as much as you do until you POINT IT OUT 5 MILLIONS TIMES.

Be confident. Be happy. Take what you have and roll with it. I'm sure there's THOUSANDS of girls out there who would kill to be you.

Okay the rant is over.

Love you guys. 

Talk tomorrow. 

INDEPENDENCE, LOVING YOURSELF & KNOWING YOUR WORTH

So I know I'm a self-proclaimed health and fitness blog but something that some of you may not know about me is

1. I LOVE to Write

and

2. I love to observe.

I'm constantly observing situations and wondering why people are the way they are. I want to know everyone's story and UNDERSTAND them. So with that said, since I do so much observing, I've seen a lot of the same situations and HEARD a lot of the same stories over and over and over anddddd over again.

So today I want to break open this "girl talk" page with a reminder you that

You DO NOT need a guy in your life. PERIOD.

I hear sooo many girls say, "I'm just going to find a rich guy and marry him." I don't want to judge and also say that I flat out see it all the time too but, I wouldn't be surprised. Or "When I'm married THEN I'll be able to work towards my dreams." Orrr "I'm just going to wait for my future husband to buy that for me."

WRONGGGGGGG. INSERT BIG RED FLAG HERE.

Here's some more: "I need a boyfriend so that I'll work out." "I need a boyfriend so that I'll get my shit together." What? You DO NOT NEED a guy in your life to fix those things. If that's your thinking pattern then you probably also think that money is going to make you happy and that's just a crock of shit.

Sorry to come off so bluntly but I just want to scream it out to some girls sometimes! With anything in life you should ALWAYS do it for yourself first. For example, cleaning your house. You should want to live in a clean space that you're proud of. It shouldn't be a place that you just sleep at and then clean when someone is coming over.

Same thing with your body.

Run for you! Sweat for you! Get abs for you! Sure if you want to use the hot guy at the gym as your motivation that's awesome! But at the end of the day don't do it FOR HIM!

Because if your mind set is "I'm working out so that I can look good for so and so and finally get his attention..." then as soon as he blows you off, you completely lose any sense of purpose to go work out. 

I'm especially passionate about this topic when it comes to your DREAM. Your PASSION. Your life long goal. What if you get with this guy for his money, tell him your dreams, he helps you get everything set up, he gives you money, he gets you all the connections, and then he decides to leave you. BYE BYE everything you had hoped for.

Even if you get lucky enough that he leaves the business with you or in your name you still need to figure out how to run it. Something that you should have been doing all those years that you were just sitting around waiting for Mr Money to roll around. Now what?

Is this all making sense? 

I blog because I love it and I really love connecting with you guys. Yes, I have bigger dreams of what my blog will be and when I get there I will have the satisfaction of knowing that I got myself there and I will be aware of every single thing happening in my brand. I have already learned so much over this last year and I will continue to learn because I'm putting in the time.

As women I think it's EXTREMELY IMPORTANT to remember that we are our own boss and at the end of the day we need to be able to rely on ourselves and make ourselves happy.

If we look for that in someone else then we are leaving our success, our happiness, our health and whatever else up to someone else!! 

That is crazy to me!! And you might not even know who this person is yet! Like, WHAT???

You're with you 24/7 and you have the ability to become whatever you want! Just do that instead. Also, if a guy that you're with doesn't think your vision or your dream is one of the most attractive things about you then BYE! 

If you give up on what you're doing or what you want to be doing, FOR A GUY, I will personally find you and shake you ha. But seriously. If he doesn't like it then great, you don't care. You know why? Because YOU like it and that's all that matters.

Moral of the rant. Be you. Do you. Take chances and be scared. Don't wait. Please please please whatever you do don't wait. Do whatever it is that you want to try RIGHT NOW. Make sure you fail at it a few times so you can get it right. Be proud of what you're doing and most of all, be happy. Don't be the girl that has 20 pounds of jewelry on and the latest everything but can't tell you what her last accomplishment was.

Do you guys have any comments on this? Let me know below. 

Love you guys!! Make yourself proud.