(GUEST POST – By Krissy McNeill, creator of the blog Champagne in Church)
Let’s be real here. Like, really real.
We ALL have toxic relationships. Whether it’s a friend, a family member, a boyfriend, a girlfriend, the list goes on. It literally doesn’t matter who, what, when, where, or why. We all have it at some point in our lives.
I’m not just talking about toxic relationships that wear you down to skin and bones. I’m talking about people that plain and simple just don’t benefit you anymore. People that tend to bring you down and flip your mood a bit. I’m talking about detoxing your surroundings.
Like a detox you do for the body, but for the people in your life. Yup. Literally cleansing out the bad and starting with the goods that you already have.
We carry a lottttttt with us throughout the day. One thing we don’t need tagging along is the people who don’t benefit us anymore. The ones who straight up just aren’t happy for us. Think about these people bringing you down in any way and ask yourself why you keep breathing in that same air. You don’t have to continue to think that either of you are in the wrong. Sometimes we just go separate ways and it’s ok to reevaluate where they stand in your life right now. It’s refreshing to detoxify.
AND YOU GUYS. There’s good news. You don’t have to do anything harsh to detox your surroundings. It doesn’t have to be some wild uproar. It’s really reallllllly simple and better yet, you don’t have to feel bad at all. Here’s why.
What? You read right. Deleting people from your life DOES NOT mean that you have to literally delete their number and rip their page out of your book. Can you? Yes. Do you have to? No. It just means that you don’t have to deal with their shit anymore. Their comments are just background noise.
( If it’s a douchebag ex-boyfriend making you cry all the time, I recommend you ignore that and delete the number. Rip that damn page out of the book. )
It doesn’t mean you don’t care!
Do you still care about them? YES. And you most likely always will. You just know your self-worth. And THAT IS OK. It’s ok to know your self-worth and walk away from something that isn’t benefitting you anymore. It’s ok to care about people but move on with your own life. Deleting people doesn’t mean you don’t care, it just means you know what you deserve.
Think about it. You grow up, you grow apart, and you grow into yourself. Every single day you are growing as your own person and sometimes we don’t grow in the same path as the people we thought we would. And that’s ok. You’re allowed grow and drop any type of negativity.
Those who matter are still there
I think it’s easier to delete people from your life when you know that the people who truly deserve a spot in your life are never going to make you question that. They are going to be there whether you eliminate people or not. You have who you need, why have all the extra baggage?
Your mind will rest
At the end of the day, your mind set is what matters most. It’s YOUR mind racing on that pillow at night, not theirs. It’s time to eat that pillow up at night with no motha ‘effing toxicity.
Don’t be so hard on yourself for deleting people from your life. The phrase sounds harsher than it is. That’s why I use the ‘detox your surroundings’ term instead. It sounds more.. subtle.
Put yourself first sometimes, it’s good for the soul.
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